“There wasn’t this language for it,” said Kobabe, 33, who now uses gender-neutral pronouns and doesn’t identify as male or female. The words available failed to describe the experience. But coming out as nonbinary years later, in 2016, was far more complicated, Kobabe said. Ĭoming out as bisexual in high school had been relatively easy: Maia Kobabe lived in the liberal San Francisco Bay Area and had supportive classmates and parents. To hear more audio stories from publications like The New York Times, download Audm for iPhone or Android.
